An Excerpt from Consenting To Grace:
Love is not only the motive for God's healing, but also the method God uses to heal. God loves us into being, and continues to love us into new life. Gestalt Pastoral Care ministers seek to embody God's love as best they can; in fact much of the emotional and spiritual preparation for doing this work has to do with being able to love more fully.
Loving does not mean taking pain away prematurely, covering it up or soothing it away. It does not mean advising, rescuing, or figuring things out. It is not about glossing over hard truth. It is certainly not about taking charge of another's healing process.
Loving means to invite God - daily, hourly - to love through us. Because our own love is incomplete and subject to distortion , we depend on God to fill us with the love we need to journey with another person. With the greatest respect we enter the private world of the one in need of healing, intent on discovering together how God is inviting him to take the next step. As companion and midwife, we humbly suggest ways he might cooperate with God's work. We are willing to accompany him to places of remorse, terror, despair, and tragedy, without turning away to make it easier for ourselves. We stand in awe of the process of growth and healing already set in motion, and of unique an ingenious ways each person has found to cope with adversity.
Loving is not always easy. We must constantly work to rid ourselves of judgments, agendas, resentments, and fear. We must give up any need for personal power, but we continue to pray that God's power will be active and evident. Then we wait. Oh my, how we wait. Like any good midwife we know there is ordinarily nothing to do until the next contraction comes, except be there.